Are You Ready To Learn How To Enjoy Your Life More?

How would you like to learn how to enjoy your life no matter what you’re doing and where you’re doing it? If you can master this one skill, you can take any situation you’re in and make it a more enjoyable one.

Most of us spend much our time each day doing things we have to do. Working, chores, meetings, errands, and more, all take up our time and we have little control over doing them. Sure you could always call in sick, or say no once in a while. But for the most part, it’s safe to say that there are many things in life that we just have to do whether we like it or not.

There’s also those times when we face failure and struggle. Nobody enjoys life when they’re facing these things right?

What Determines How You Experience Your Life?

How you feel  in any situation is based on the story you tell yourself about it. The best way to explain this is by using a couple of examples.

1. You just finished a big meal with your family and they all had to run off to do something. Now, you’re left with a huge pile of dishes that need to be washed. Not an exciting thought right? The things you tell yourself about this situation might be something along these lines:

  • There are other things I would rather be doing than dishes.
  • That pile of dishes is going to take forever to wash.
  • My hands are going to get irritated and itchy from being in all the soapy water.
  • My back might start aching from standing over the sink.

2. You’re trying to break a habit like smoking or overeating, but you keep failing. The things you tell yourself might be something like this:

  • I can’t do this.
  • I’m a failure.
  • The addiction is just too strong for me to quit.
  • I might as well give up.

When you’re going through these types of experiences, it’s easy to get caught up in the story you tell yourself. Well, I’m going to share a technique that you can use to turn that story around so that you can enjoy your life more.

Asking The Right Questions Can Make Your Life More Enjoyable

By asking yourself a couple of questions, you can make something you’re doing or experiencing more enjoyable. You’ll be amazed at the type of answers you can give yourself when you ask the right questions.

By asking yourself questions, you set your brain on a path of trying to solve a problem. Brains love trying to solve problems so you might as well use this to your advantage. If you’re serious enough about wanting an answer to your question, you brain will give you one.

The types of questions you should ask yourself will depend on whether you are in an unpleasant situation, or if you are struggling or failing at something.

Make An Unpleasant Situation More Pleasant

There are two questions you can ask yourself when you end up in a situation you don’t particularly like.

  1. Is there anything good about this situation?
  2. What could I do to make this situation more enjoyable?

For example, let’s go back to the situation where you’ve just been left with a big pile of dishes that you have to do by yourself.

  1. Is there anything good about this situation?
    • Maybe this is a good opportunity to have some time alone to clear your thoughts or ponder something.
    • Maybe doing it by yourself is a good thing because you can be sure the job is done to your liking.
  2. What can I do to make this situation more enjoyable?
    • Would putting your favorite music on make it more enjoyable?
    • Would putting a scented candle on that you like make it more enjoyable?
    • Maybe calling a friend on speakerphone might be fun. You could chat with them while you work.

bonus hint – once you’ve answered #2, ask yourself “OK, that will make this situation better, but is there anything else I could do take make it even better yet?

Once you have your answers, implement of them as you can, and just watch how the experience changes for you.

Turn Struggles Or Failures Into Learning Experiences

If you’re facing struggles or failures and it’s bringing you down, there’s a good chance you’re focusing on the problem itself. Here are a couple of questions you can use to change your focus. These questions will help you change a struggle or failure into a learning experience that will make you a better, more succesful person going forward.

  1. What caused me to struggle or fail?
  2. How can I use what I’ve learned so that I’ll be more successful in the future?
    • Is there some way I can avoid what caused me to fail this time?
    • What could I do something differently next time that might help me be more successful?

By using failure and struggle as a tool to learn from, the failure doesn’t feel so bad anymore. The experience changes from something negative, to something that you can learn from so that you become better and more successful in the future.

The Right Questions WILL Help You To Enjoy Your Life More

Asking the right questions can help you make an unpleasant situation more enjoyable and they can take struggle and failure and turn them into opportunities to learn and grow.

Just to recap…

Here are the questions you would ask yourself if you find yourself in a situation you don’t enjoy:

  1. Is there anything good about this situation?
  2. What can I do to make this situation more enjoyable?

And here are the questions you would ask yourself if you find yourself struggling or failing:

  1. What caused me to struggle or fail?
  2. How can I use what I’ve learned to make myself better and more successful in the future?

If you seriously apply this technique of asking yourself the right questions, I know you will start enjoying your life more.

If you’re willing, why not leave a comment and share a situation you’re experiencing right now and how you might  apply this technique to it.

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